I'm pretty sure

[papasmerf]

I know, you're right. But walking from this will be a big deal for me, and I want to be sure that's the right move.

Although I couldn't help comparing the way it was hanging out with Studly last night and how it last was with the bf. I was much more relaxed with Studly, we laugh a lot.

not ever man is a SMERF and as such they tend to complicate things with BABY GAMES rather than opening up.

Example:

Papa cooking, Papa happy.

Papa sharpening sword, Papa not happy.

 

[SillyGirl]

not ever man is a SMERF and as such they tend to complicate things with BABY GAMES rather than opening up.

Example:

Papa cooking, Papa happy.

Papa sharpening sword, Papa not happy.

I don't know if he's deliberately playing games or just being his real self. Either way it doesn't really bode well.

 

[papasmerf]

I don't know if he's deliberately playing games or just being his real self. Either way it doesn't really bode well.

I have been happily divorced for over 25 years and enjoy being alone..........Seems I prefer it

 

[SillyGirl]

I have been happily divorced for over 25 years and enjoy being alone..........Seems I prefer it

I used to prefer it but now I don't.

 

[papasmerf]

I used to prefer it but now I don't.

understandable

One day I might decide upon the same path.

 

[Anto]

I know, you're right. But walking from this will be a big deal for me, and I want to be sure that's the right move.

Although I couldn't help comparing the way it was hanging out with Studly last night and how it last was with the bf. I was much more relaxed with Studly, we laugh a lot.

If you cannot feel relaxed, comfortable and smile at will when with the BF, then time to walk away.

 

[Art Mann]

I know, you're right. But walking from this will be a big deal for me, and I want to be sure that's the right move. . .

It may not be the right move at all.

But it may be a good gamble. And this is why

. . . I couldn't help comparing the way it was hanging out with Studly last night and how it last was with the bf. I was much more relaxed with Studly, we laugh a lot.

Laughter is a wonderful lubricant for great relationships.

 

[DannyDeVito]

Don't despair SG, I'll dump my 2 present girlfriends so I can date you.

Just sent me a dirty detailed sexy PM what you plan to do with me on our first date. The kinkier the better :-Cool/"

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

Even though he is acting like one, he's not a child so don't treat him like one. Call him out on his actions and leave it at that.
Sigh...silly boys. He is losing probably the best person he has in his life for whatever his reasons. I personally do not handle being manipulated like that very well. SG, kudos to you for keeping a clear head so far.

 

[Loophole]

Looks like an opinion I can reply on but don't deal with those that have their "Off" on their profile.


Makes me wonder of their insecurities.

 

[Paco]

Looks like an opinion I can reply on but don't deal with those that have their "Off" on their profile.


Makes me wonder of their insecurities.

\you are meaning why they don't want to be seen they are viewing the site?.

 

[SillyGirl]

understandable

One day I might decide upon the same path.

Alone is definitely a lot simpler.

 

[papasmerf]

Alone is definitely a lot simpler.

and the food is better

 

[SillyGirl]

If you cannot feel relaxed, comfortable and smile at will when with the BF, then time to walk away.

I think every longterm relationship goes through good times and bad. Sometimes you have to ride out the bad to get back to the good.

There are a lot of things to be worked out if this is to actually go longterm.

 

[SillyGirl]

1. If you walk away and it is a mistake, that doesn't mean he won't come after you to show you he does care. It happens in all the best romance movies.

2. Is "Studly" actually "Big" from Sex and The City and you're just messing with all of us pretending to be that horse-faced actress that's married to Ferris Beuler?

1. I really prefer to deal in the real. What happens in movies is just made up stories.

2. LOL. No.

 

[SillyGirl]

It may not be the right move at all.

But it may be a good gamble. And this is why



Laughter is a wonderful lubricant for great relationships.

So true. Being able to make each other laugh is really important to me in a relationship.

BF and I used to laugh a lot, we'll see if we get back there.

 

[SillyGirl]

Don't despair SG, I'll dump my 2 present girlfriends so I can date you.

Just sent me a dirty detailed sexy PM what you plan to do with me on our first date. The kinkier the better :-Cool/"

Wow, you would dump them both? Again with the being helpful around here, it's heartwarming. :tongue:

 

[SillyGirl]

Even though he is acting like one, he's not a child so don't treat him like one. Call him out on his actions and leave it at that.
Sigh...silly boys. He is losing probably the best person he has in his life for whatever his reasons. I personally do not handle being manipulated like that very well. SG, kudos to you for keeping a clear head so far.

Thanks Amy.

I'm not sure he's being deliberately manipulative. Even though we've been together for awhile now, because of the LongDistance factor we haven't actually spent that much time together. I think I'm just seeing things now that I would have seen a lot earlier if we lived near each other.

I try really hard not to expect people to change. He is who he is, and there are things about him I really love. Sometimes a thing you love about a person can present its own challenges...for example, I love that he does not sugarcoat things when he says them. The flipside of that is that his brutal honesty hurts sometimes.

 

[SillyGirl]

and the food is better

hahaha, not at my place. :no:

 

[Whogoesthere]

Ask yourself two questions.



Am I myself with him when I am happy or sad.


Is he comfortable and lets you be with either?.