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Ida as a high school cheerleader!:biggrin2:
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Baz said:
Except you know she does not like it at all. So you basically admit that your selfish need for curiosity and entertainment outweighs your feelings for your wife? She may be giving your permission and you may be an open book but she is doing it under pressure and you are an open book simply to continue to justify your need to be here.
I am not trying to run you out of here, but I have little bit of respect for the men who at least don't throw their board activity in the face of their wives. They know their wives will not approve. Yes, they still come here, but they don't flaunt it. What you are doing is worse in my opinion.
Ida does not like it. Period! End of discussion. Now you have to make the choice. As a man, you should be making the choice for what is best for your woman. Not waiting for her to finally lay down the hammer. Then you get to blame her for being what? Insecure, closed-minded? It is really unfair what you are doing Baz.
As I said, I let my SO go through the phases he needed to, but at some point he knew that it was hurting me to do and he stopped on his own. I have more love and respect for him now that he could put aside his wants for my needs. He was past his need stage. He now loves and respects me more because I was able to put aside my feelings to let him do what he needed when he needed it. It is a balance. You are being selfish in my most humble and nicest possible opinion.
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Thank you for your opinion. I do not take offence to a well articulated POV posted in sincerity Ms.FemmeFatale. I did say if Ida requests me to stop posting on the board I will do so as I've followed her wishes on other matters relating to this board. She does't often log on but I do know she reads the lobby therefore she will see this statement and she merely needs to give me the word and I will take a leave of absence at her request only without any malice towards her whatsoever. I truly love my wife and I would do anything she wishes of me to keep her happy.
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Okay, I'm going to be very serious for a moment here! I am not judging why you are here Baz but there must be something missing from your married life for you and non hobbyist to be so involved on the board.
Ok, I'm middle aged (45), divorced, no dependents, lonely-yes lonely, I have trust issues within relationships maybe because it's always the wrong relationship, so I have chosen to be alone.
I'm not judging you or anyone else because if I were still married I don't know if I'd be on these boards, I would hope not, but I can't say or hope that it was part of OUR life for fun only. I would hope that I would have been filled with family and kept busy by their activities as well as mine. That fact is I'm here because I'm bored and lonely, so stop your bullshit why are you really here?
Ok, I'm middle aged (45), divorced, no dependents, lonely-yes lonely, I have trust issues within relationships maybe because it's always the wrong relationship, so I have chosen to be alone.
I'm not judging you or anyone else because if I were still married I don't know if I'd be on these boards, I would hope not, but I can't say or hope that it was part of OUR life for fun only. I would hope that I would have been filled with family and kept busy by their activities as well as mine. That fact is I'm here because I'm bored and lonely, so stop your bullshit why are you really here?
Baz said:
Baz, the issue is that you are not "learning" from others and their experience from here for the most part. Most of your comments tend to leans towards you wishing for others to accept your opinion and your experience.
Baz said:
If you truly love your wife like you said you do, knowing that she is uncomfortable with your participation on here - you shouldn't need to wait for her to tell you to quit. You should've done it on your own to show your devotion to her and that her comfort level comes before your curiosity.
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Baz said:
Dude, She has EXPRESSED her unhappiness that you're on the boards. She EXPRESSED her unhappiness that you attended a party...... how many times does she have to express those feelings of unhappiness before you get the message? Forget about what I've said in the past about you being a troll etc. If you seriously love the woman you're with, you would not be doing ANYTHING to make her unhappy.
Whatever you do next, you need to think long and hard about whether Ida is willing to accept it, tolerate it or put up with it.
You guys keep feeding this troll.... all he wants is your attention... your responses to his postings...
He gets a sick, sad, vicarious pleasure out of comparing how much better he is to all of us who hobby.
I repeat... don't feed the troll.....
He gets a sick, sad, vicarious pleasure out of comparing how much better he is to all of us who hobby.
I repeat... don't feed the troll.....
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Analme said:
Good idea, Analme. Baz, pick a female handle, that'll really throw ida off your trail.
Make it simple, yet believable, a name with a nice ring to it, like . . . Vikki.
Yeah. Try that and see if it fits.
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Baz said:
You know her, you know what she wishes. She should not have to say it for you to step up and do it. It would never take me actually telling my SO what I truly do not like for him to step up to the plate and just not do it. I guess that is where you and him differ, but I can tell you most women would prefer their man to know and act, not wait to be told.
GL though Baz.
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HOF said:
Bosco looks in mirror and is feeling depressed. Thanks ya bastard,lol.
On a serious note to Baz as well. Maurice was once married to a saint of a woman but when she was talking about her wishes, well Bosco just wasn't listening. Had my head buried so far up my ass that I just couldn't see that the relationship was crumbling. Didn't hit me until we had to sign the divorce papers that I had totally wrecked my life.
The boards are not the place for a happily married man in my opinion.
Now if you are just in fact a troll please disregard my diatribe and go back under your bridge.
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Sorry Bosco, it's 00:26 and I'm still bored and lonely!
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Casa_Nova said:
Baz , Seriously listen to what Casa is saying. It makes perfect sense. Be a man and not put all the pressure on your wife to tell you to stop. Realize its the right thing for you... Dont let the door ...
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The door for now will not be slapping me anywhere let alone out. I do appreciate many of the comments although some I do believe are very happy at the thought of my possible demise. Ida and I had a very fruitful discussion last night. She expressed to me she does not mind me participating here provided I do not attempt to meet any of the ladies even if it is for discussion purposes only. She conveyed too me she trusts me completely and when she's had enough she will let me know. She does monitor my postings and as I've correctly stated it's some of the comments by the members that infuriate her as opposed to my posts.
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Danolo said:
You really need to give your head a shake. I do not have a superiority complex as you have alluded to nor do I need your attention to fulfill my day. I don't believe I've ever made a rude or off the cuff remark towards you. I don't believe I've ever commented negatively to your escapades with a pay for play hire. I don't see why you keep calling me a troll when in reality I'm the one being trolled on by a few, which is fine because I don't get intimidated easily nor do I go running to the powers that be to remove anyone.
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Baz said:
Then she should show some self control and not log on. I am sorry but it can not be both ways. She is has an account so she should speak up if those comments bother her. If she trusts you and doesn't want to be bothered about the comments from others, then don't monitor.
To be honest, it sounds like Ida doesn't know up from down. How do you trust someone completely but monitor them???? I trust my SO. I never go into his email, monitor his board activities, check his phone. I don't need to because I trust him. It makes no sense to me.
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Wait a minute..... Your wife found out, through a public discussion board, that you attended an event at a swingers club and that is somehow the fault of the people posting on the board? And you expect everyone to do their best to not make you look bad in front of your wife... on an escort review board... that you're a member of?
Man, I know I don't come here often and may be a little behind on my reading but that's pretty fucked up.
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