Partaking in Pay for Play with the Spouse

[Baz]

Folks, I'm not judging but I am merely curious of the dynamics involved when a couple bring in another party. I've read a few reviews where the couple engage together in this so called hobby. If I may ask a few questions please;

Is there not any jealousy built up by watching your spouse enjoying themselves with another person?
Is it not human nature to later compare your spouse with the other companions regardless if it's pay for play or a swinger's setting?

I ask because I cannot imagine watching my spouse engage with another individual and I don't believe I would be able to feel comfortable being watched by my better half and this is what makes this so mind boggling for me.

 

[Shiek]

To each his own BAZ.

If you cant imagine, then why are you here?

 

[Baz]

To each his own BAZ.

If you cant imagine, then why are you here?

For that very reason, to learn. I can ask the same of you, Why are you here? You don't seem to pay to play, which is your choice. What I'm saying is I have as much right to be here as you. I am merely asking a question and as I forewarned I am not judging nor will I obviously argue with the answers given, therefore if you do not have anything constructive to contribute to the thread but instead to try and chase me away, please put me on ignore.

 

[Butch]

Baz your wife gave me great head last weekend. She is a little overweight but has nice pussy lips.

 

[Baz]

Baz your wife gave me great head last weekend. She is a little overweight but has nice pussy lips.

Sorry, that was not my wife. My wife is as fit as a fiddle, perhaps the more likely scenario is that in your drunken stupor you picked up a street walker.

 

[Shiek]

For that very reason, to learn. I can ask the same of you, Why are you here? You don't seem to pay to play, which is your choice. What I'm saying is I have as much right to be here as you. I am merely asking a question and as I forewarned I am not judging nor will I obviously argue with the answers given, therefore if you do not have anything constructive to contribute to the thread but instead to try and chase me away, please put me on ignore.

You've asked similar questions in the past that have exposed your real agenda, whats to say you're not doing it again? I've already explained to you what I do for the industry and obviously you've forgotten.

 

[SillyGirl]

One thing I think is true of most is that you cannot predict how you will react to seeing your SO with someone else...you might think you know how you'll feel, but you really don't until it actually happens.

I've only done FMF, so can't speak to the comparison question.

Jealousy wasn't an issue in my experience. A lot of the credit for that probably goes to my ex...if he for one second thought any of those women were hotter than I was, he never showed it. I recall it being more of a "tag team" thing, two people working together to show the third an amazing time, with everyone getting their turn.

 

[Baz]

It amazes me how I'm referred to as the troll but whenever I ask a simple question without malice I'm the one trolled upon by different members.

 

[-b]

Baz....I did 3some and 4some with my ex.....

I enjoyed it.....with most of the women I had a great time with....
If you can not understand it just sex and some fun then you will never get it....
After some many years we wanted to spice things up...plus I was Bi and I really
started missing being with women......I bet there are a few people you know that
do 3somes that will not tell anybody, just get an escort......

Take Ida to Wicked ...you both can observe others.....watch others and their response....

 

[Baz]

One thing I think is true of most is that you cannot predict how you will react to seeing your SO with someone else...you might think you know how you'll feel, but you really don't until it actually happens.

I've only done FMF, so can't speak to the comparison question.

Jealousy wasn't an issue in my experience. A lot of the credit for that probably goes to my ex...if he for one second thought any of those women were hotter than I was, he never showed it. I recall it being more of a "tag team" thing, two people working together to show the third an amazing time, with everyone getting their turn.

Thank you very much for your honest answer SillyGirl. If I may ask, did you find after the experience to have helped your relationship at all?

 

[Baz]

Baz....I did 3some and 4some with my ex.....

I enjoyed it.....with most of the women I had a great time with....
If you can not understand it just sex and some fun then you will never get it....
After some many years we wanted to spice things up...plus I was Bi and I really
started missing being with women......I bet there are a few people you know that
do 3somes that will not tell anybody, just get an escort......

Take Ida to Wicked ...you both can observe others.....watch others and their response....

I would think in your case being bi I mean, you would actually look forward to involving another woman. At the time how do you feel your husband would have reacted if you wanted to bring another male to the table or shall we say bed? Thank you Blissful for your honest answer.

 

[Shiek]

Thank you very much for your honest answer SillyGirl. If I may ask, did you find after the experience to have helped your relationship at all?

What business is it of yours Baz?

Go take Ida to Wicked, I'll put you on the guest list and the two of you can experience together what its like to watch other couples.

 

[Baz]

You've asked similar questions in the past that have exposed your real agenda, whats to say you're not doing it again? I've already explained to you what I do for the industry and obviously you've forgotten.

I remember quite well what you do and I'm aware of the party you are arranging this week. I unfortunately cannot attend which is not by choice but due to other commitments. I don't have an agenda and if that's not evident by my posts you sir are really missing the mark with your assumptions.

 

[SillyGirl]

Thank you very much for your honest answer SillyGirl. If I may ask, did you find after the experience to have helped your relationship at all?

In some ways, yes. We had been together for 17 years at that point, so the sexual boost was good. Also, it was great fun to have a naughty secret together.

To the negative, I think our walk on the wild side later led both of us to some bad behavior, in which I don't think either of us would have indulged had we not had the hobby experience.

I don't regret it, though. He and I were already doomed, we just didn't realize it yet. And I learned and grew so much from the whole experience that I look back on it as mostly positive.

 

[Baz]

What business is it of yours Baz?

Go take Ida to Wicked, I'll put you on the guest list and the two of you can experience together what its like to watch other couples.

It isn't any of my business if SillyGirl chooses to not answer but it is certainly none of your business if she chooses to enlighten me, thank you for your concern. I will take Ida anywhere she chooses to go but I highly doubt Wicked is a viable option.

 

[Baz]

In some ways, yes. We had been together for 17 years at that point, so the sexual boost was good. Also, it was great fun to have a naughty secret together.

To the negative, I think our walk on the wild side later led both of us to some bad behavior, in which I don't think either of us would have indulged had we not had the hobby experience.

I don't regret it, though. He and I were already doomed, we just didn't realize it yet. And I learned and grew so much from the whole experience that I look back on it as mostly positive.

Yes, I would think you're correct in thinking it led you both down some let's call it naughty paths but as you say and I don't disagree with you, your relationship was probably in jeopardy and the fact that you now look back and have no regrets is good .

 

[-b]

I would think in your case being bi I mean, you would actually look forward to involving another woman. At the time how do you feel your husband would have reacted if you wanted to bring another male to the table or shall we say bed? Thank you Blissful for your honest answer.

My ex would have, he had no issues with another man.....
I just enjoy women....too much....a lot.....

Now who would not like this.....

 

[Baz]

Thank you for your answer Blissful. I will refrain from asking you anything further at the fear I will offend you again.

 

[DannyDeVito]

SG, what's with the cat?.

 

[SillyGirl]

SG, what's with the cat?.

He's horny and has a fabric fetish. Every time I leave he drags something made of fabric into the living room and fucks it.

The GIF just cracks me up, LOL.