So What Do You Learn This Year?

[Blank_Dave]

Seeing as the new year is nearly upon us, and it's approaching the time to make resolutions, why not look back upon the past year and what we've learned?

1) Boy, was I 'abused' when I was growing up.

2) Not all abuse comes in the forms of beatings and harsh words. It can also come in the form of silk bonds and undermining words and actions.

3) Coming to grips with the above can be hard to do.

4) A step down the corporate ladder = pay cut + stress cut = WIN

5) Tattoos don't really hurt that much.

6) I like playing bass and kickboxing.

7) What a bone breaking sounds like.

8) Having and expressing emotions is ok.

9) I still have trouble doing the above.

10) I'm not ready for a relationship, be it merely a friendship or more. The intimacy factor still frightens me.

11) Sex is still a mystery, and over rated IMO. But that's ok by me, as it's not that important to me.

12) I have no idea what my wants or needs are, and having genuine wants and needs is ok. (Genuine want/need is not "I want a new PS3 game"...)

13) It's ok, I can handle it.

14) Apparently, I was the only one to really notice the cysts/lumps on my head.

That's what comes to mind thus far. So what have you learned this past year?

 

[Boozer]

Buddy life is good just learn to enjoy it.

What kind of abuse did you get?. I was slapped a few times but outgrew it. You?.

 

[Blank_Dave]

Buddy life is good just learn to enjoy it.

Most certainly.

What kind of abuse did you get?. I was slapped a few times but outgrew it. You?.

I don't want this to become a "boohoo, woe is me" thread. I want to find out what people have found out in the past year, be it good, bad, or in different.

 

[Art Mann]

I learned the names and phone numbers of several beautiful ladies who turned my sexual fantasies to reality:biggrin:

 

[RAWD]

I had the best year and the worst year of my life in 2011. I experienced true joy, and confronted epic personal failure.

I learned what love is, and should be. I am very blessed. No other way to put it.

I learned who my friends are, and what a friendship should be. I learned to stop making excuses, for myself and for others. Life is too short to waste time and energy fighting for things that can only be freely given.

I am really looking forward to the road ahead. It will be an incredible journey.

 

[Curly]

I learned what love is, and should be. I am very blessed. No other way to put it.

I learned who my friends are, and what a friendship should be. I learned to stop making excuses, for myself and for others. Life is too short to waste time and energy fighting for things that can only be freely given.

Good for you RAWD. I learned it all a long time ago but sure is nice to hear others are catching up.

 

[Wanker]

I learn to never assume anything. Think about that one.

 

[RAWD]

Lol. Well, I also learned that u can always hope for the best in someone, but that can make disappointment all the more stinging.

I'm an eternal optimist. The hardest part about losing a friend is realizing that you were wrong about them.

 

[-b]

I have learned that my heart can be crushed but I can still keep going....
I have learned that I can be in the picks of hell but still keep going
I learned how strong an individual I am and how caring and loving
I learned that I have issues taking compliments.......
I learned that I was controlled in my whole life and now I am in control of my life....Never will I give up that control again...
I learned that I have friends, real friends...and I am not isolated anymore....
I learned that I can laugh, smile and joke in the most difficult times in my life...
I learned that life is very short....just a breath.....a look....a smile....a cry...an I love you...and life can be gone....
I learned not to beat myself up when I make mistakes...even if my spelling sucks....well I am good at sucking....:rofl1:
I learned that even though some people here do not want me around, there are also people here who have asked me to stay......I take it they like Sybil......:toocool:
I have learned that it is my responsibility to keep me safe........that not everybody is nice and kind...
I have learned to surround myself with the strongest women in my community....they like and love me for me.....
I have learned that I have a community here too....I like that....
I learned a lot from the escorts I have seen, good things, bad things, sexy things, and caring things...that they saw what was happening, I Thank You all Dear Ladies.....
I learn that there is a special friend on here that when I fuck up she tells me, puts me in my place,and says I need a time out......:rofl1:

I want to say to all on the board even if you think I am Nuts......I want to say Thank You from My Heart...Yes I think I have one.......or 2 maybe 24 individual hearts.. You have helped me get through Hell and I am still climbing out but the colours are returning to my life.....

 

[Chucky]

I've learned to never ever say never.

 

[a 1 player]

Isaac Newton invented calculus in two months, in 42 years I still haven't the slightest grasp of it.

 

[Blank_Dave]

)h yes, one from one of my group councilors...."What other people think of me is none of my business."

 

[RAWD]

As your sense of self-esteem matures, the influence of external feedback diminishes. So says my therapist....except that the opinion of those who matter to me will always matter.

 

[SillyGirl]

I learned that no matter how hard I try not to be, I'm pretty monogamous by nature.

I don't like it. :no:

 

[RAWD]

I learned that no matter how hard I try not to be, I'm pretty monogamous by nature.

I don't like it. :no:

I do.

Get it??? LMAO.

(p.s., nothing wrong with monogamy as long as your partner is the same. I've learned that a strong, healthy relationship is monogamous. Polygamy is primal, but not ideal. It is not conducive to a strong, life-long intimate relationship. We look elsewhere when we aren't happy at home...but if we were happy once, we can be again and always...if we put in the effort.)

 

[SillyGirl]

but if we were happy once, we can be again and always...if we put in the effort.)

Not always...sometimes the ways people change over the decades make the relationship fundamentally unworkable. No matter how hard you try, you can't go back to the people you were back when it was still good.

 

[RAWD]

Not always...sometimes the ways people change over the decades make the relationship fundamentally unworkable. No matter how hard you try, you can't go back to the people you were back when it was still good.

People change, but couples can change together. Things never stay the same; it just depends on whether you both want to be different...together.

One thing I'm grappling with now is whether you can know a person too well. Intense relationships result in a lot of shared experiences. Some things are very hurtful. You can forgive, but never forget. I wonder if knowing too much makes a healthy relationship impossible.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

I learned that if the other guy objects to talking in front of your attorney then he isn't worth talking to.

I also learned that losing your first and only love comes close to cutting your own heart out.

 

[RAWD]

I learned that if the other guy objects to talking in front of your attorney then he isn't worth talking to.

I also learned that losing your first and only love comes close to cutting your own heart out.

I've learned that many attorneys are not worth talking to.

The loss of love that hurts is not lost; it's taken away.




Trust is fragile. If it means anything to you, protect it at all costs. If it's meaningless, so is your relationship with that person.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

In any business dealing now I make sure that my attorney is there with me because he thinks about the legal ramifications about any business arrangement that I may make and puts it on the table right away. He also has my interests in mind. I've found that anybody who objects to this arrangement is probably deep down a grifter.