What signs do a woman or man give when they are cheating on you?.

[Silverback]

I've Google it and comes up with many obvious but not to sure of it's validity to my mind that is.

Would like to hear real props of those that have been cheated and vice versa.

Thank you in advance.

 

[papasmerf]

you find me at your dinner table

 

[Beef Jerky]

you find me at your dinner table

One scary sight.

 

[-b]

Here...." You believe me don't you" ......

If I showed up, your wife change sides.....

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

If your partner suddenly after years of the same sex routine wants to try new moves so to speak.

Chances are they learned them from someone else.

 

[Heafer]

If she starts wearing sexier dresses that usual.

 

[socialstrat]

Looking back, it should have been quite obvious. But some of the more subtle early signs: tried to pick fights for no reason and ludicrous accusations of infidelity towards me. We're still friendly and she admitted that this was because she had to try to make me into a bad guy to justify what she was doing.

 

[papasmerf]

Looking back, it should have been quite obvious. But some of the more subtle early signs: tried to pick fights for no reason and ludicrous accusations of infidelity towards me. We're still friendly and she admitted that this was because she had to try to make me into a bad guy to justify what she was doing.

when I went through my divorce my Grandfather's words kept repeating in my head, every time we were in court.

"A good woman is hard to find when you bury them right"

He was a wise man

 

[socialstrat]

when I went through my divorce my Grandfather's words kept repeating in my head, every time we were in court.

"A good woman is hard to find when you bury them right"

He was a wise man

We were living together but not yet married. Looking at it now, I was lucky to get out when I did.

 

[papasmerf]

We were living together but not yet married. Looking at it now, I was lucky to get out when I did.

hell yea
it is better to wreck a rental car you do not own than one you do

 

[RAWD]

Texting/msg often and at odd hours.

Very protective of phone, won't let you use it

Redirecting bank and credit card statements to the office

Losing friends/not hanging out with usual friends

preoccupation/distant in conversation

Short temper or snappy

In the early stages of cheating, libido may increase because of the endorphin rush. But, it will wane later as things settle down. Sex drive may disappear entirely at home.





go with your gut. If you think something is wrong, it probably is. Don't go accusing off the bat. Just sit down and have a talk. Ask him if he's happy, and say that you've noticed things to suggest he isn't....

 

[ida]

Any man or woman who cheats should pack up their bags and leave with nothing but the clothes on their backs. It's shows weakness and low self esteem when one needs the gratify themselves with someone outside their relationship.

Rawd you seem very knowledgeable, were you the cheated on or the cheater?

 

[celticman]

Any man or woman who cheats should pack up their bags and leave with nothing but the clothes on their backs. It's shows weakness and low self esteem when one needs the gratify themselves with someone outside their relationship.

Rawd you seem very knowledgeable, were you the cheated on or the cheater?

Bazerko, this is very helpful. Thanks.

 

[oldguyzer]

Any man or woman who cheats should pack up their bags and leave with nothing but the clothes on their backs. It's shows weakness and low self esteem when one needs the gratify themselves with someone outside their relationship.

That shows a complete disregard for the circumstances, an ignorance of the laws, and a self-justifcation that makes me suspicious...

 

[RAWD]

Rawd you seem very knowledgeable, were you the cheated on or the cheater?

Both.

I find your self-righteous condemnation to be rather amusing.

I'm old enough now to know that shit happens and everyone makes mistakes. It's what you do after you fuck up that matters. I'm also old enough to know that you can get over anything, as long as both parties want to, and that there is nothing more exasperating, hurtful or infuriating than someone who refuses to take responsibility.

 

[oldguyzer]

Both.

I find your self-righteous condemnation to be rather amusing.

I'm old enough now to know that shit happens and everyone makes mistakes. It's what you do after you fuck up that matters. I'm also old enough to know that you can get over anything, as long as both parties want to, and that there is nothing more exasperating, hurtful or infuriating than someone who refuses to take responsibility.

Bingo! Or, to add to your last sentence, denies that there is an issue.

 

[RAWD]

Bingo! Or, to add to your last sentence, denies that there is an issue.

That goes both ways. Having sailed on that boat a few times, I have noticed things on occasion with my friends or family that something is obviously wrong. But, when you're in the middle of it, you don't notice (or pretend not to notice). It's like denial. But, after it blows up, you look back and you think...how could I have not seen that???


About four years ago, I was visiting an old friend in northern Portugal. We were all chatting in the kitchen when a call came through and her husband excused himself to take it. After he answered and identified the caller, he walked out to the backyard deck for the call. She mentioned that he did that a lot, and said it was business. I thought "bullshit". It's a call he doesn't want her to overhear. He's cheating.

A couple years ago, I heard from my cousin. She had just discovered that her husband had been keeping mistress in Spain and had had a family with her (a son and a daughter). Told ya.

 

[oldguyzer]

Hard to see the reality when it is you involved in it. Denial and stubborness is so common when we're convinced we're right. Guilty as charged, your honour. :wink2:

 

[thesun]

If your partner suddenly after years of the same sex routine wants to try new moves so to speak.

Chances are they learned them from someone else.

Perhaps your partner started watching porno.

 

[oldguyzer]

Or decided you were so boring it was up to her to add some spice :-Cool/"