What signs do a woman or man give when they are cheating on you?.

[oldguyzer]

 

[Boing]

Once a woman starts dressing different and lets you watch sport channels without bitching.

Watch out.

 

[RAWD]

rawd, you're brilliant!

everyone of your points hit home with my experience...the problem is how you say it; you choose not to see it at the time, u tell yourself that things are fine when in reality things are spining out of your control more and more everyday. however I will say that being the one cheated on, I don't think you ever get over it. I still to this day wonder what I did to drive my SO to do that instead of sitting me down and telling me she was unhappy and trying to work it out. I think it holds you back from new relationships, a way to not get hurt again.

The hard part about accepting that someone you love has betrayed you is not that they hurt you....it's that you trusted them. Seeing them for who they are also means that you have to admit that you were wrong. Wrong about their character, wrong about their trustworthiness, wrong about believing them and how they felt about you. Wrong in your judgment. It's the same mentality that allows con men to perpetrate frauds. It's because we let them.

As for the second part, that's a tough one. It takes some serious navel gazing time. The easier answer is that they are self absorbed, immature, egotistical. Maybe they just lack the guts. Or maybe their ego can't take being the bad guy/girl. The bottom line is that it's not anything YOU could have done.

The alternative is a tougher pill to swallow (from experience). Maybe she tried to tell you and you weren't listening. Maybe you just heard what you wanted to hear. Maybe you were just steamrolling through your grand scheme of life and didn't stop to ask where she wanted to go?

Getting hurt sucks. I feel bad when I hear about a friend getting hurt. But, I feel even more sad when I hear that a friend has given up on love.

 

[thesun]

I am not sure about love. At times, I think it is either overrated or superficial. Perhaps I haven't experienced real LOVE.

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

Love is action. Not the fluffy frilly words and emotions.

When an SO starts changing their priorities in the relationship, it is downhill from there. If they can't keep in mind everything you've already done for them, if there is even a gap in what you're currently doing for them, they will start seeking it elsewhere. I've found women have more of an issue with that than men.

 

[thesun]

SO are you saying that your lips and how you used them on me is your way of expressing love towards me? LOL

 

[RAWD]

Love is action. Not the fluffy frilly words and emotions.

Bingo

Priorities says it all.

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

SO are you saying that your lips and how you used them on me is your way of expressing love towards me? LOL

Lol yes. But it's not just the act of sex. It's all the choices I made leading up to that moment and beyond as well. Small actions, or big....presenting myself in an appealing manner, not whining, not allowing you to think for a single moment that Id like to be elsewhere, not answering my phone when with you, focussing on you, prioritizing you over others, remembering what you want and like, etc. They are all acts of love. In my case, they are temporary and not as life-changing as someone you spend most of your time with like an SO.

 

[thesun]

I understand. Please just allow me to heal my broken heart. :wink2:

 

[socialstrat]

The hard part about accepting that someone you love has betrayed you is not that they hurt you....it's that you trusted them. Seeing them for who they are also means that you have to admit that you were wrong. Wrong about their character, wrong about their trustworthiness, wrong about believing them and how they felt about you. Wrong in your judgment. It's the same mentality that allows con men to perpetrate frauds. It's because we let them.

As for the second part, that's a tough one. It takes some serious navel gazing time. The easier answer is that they are self absorbed, immature, egotistical. Maybe they just lack the guts. Or maybe their ego can't take being the bad guy/girl. The bottom line is that it's not anything YOU could have done.

The alternative is a tougher pill to swallow (from experience). Maybe she tried to tell you and you weren't listening. Maybe you just heard what you wanted to hear. Maybe you were just steamrolling through your grand scheme of life and didn't stop to ask where she wanted to go?

Getting hurt sucks. I feel bad when I hear about a friend getting hurt. But, I feel even more sad when I hear that a friend has given up on love.

Love is action. Not the fluffy frilly words and emotions.

When an SO starts changing their priorities in the relationship, it is downhill from there. If they can't keep in mind everything you've already done for them, if there is even a gap in what you're currently doing for them, they will start seeking it elsewhere. I've found women have more of an issue with that than men.

These two posts capture it perfectly. Excuse me while I go have a good cry now... kidding... mostly...

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

These two posts capture it perfectly. Excuse me while I go have a good cry now... kidding... mostly...

 

[RAWD]

Amy has a big heart. I can tell by the way her avatar thrusts.

 

[papasmerf]

Amy has a big heart. I can tell by the way her avatar thrusts.

that is just me. behind her :wink2:

 

[socialstrat]

Amy has a big heart. I can tell by the way her avatar thrusts.

That avatar has me contemplating a move to Whitby.

 

[RAWD]

that is just me. behind her :wink2:

Thanks, pappy. Now all I can think of when I watch her avatar is you going balls deep behind her.

You broke my dick.

 

[papasmerf]

Thanks, pappy. Now all I can think of when I watch her avatar is you going balls deep behind her.

You broke my dick.

Sorry RAWD she did not tell me to keep it secret.

Did you know she thinks of me when she is with a client? :wink2:

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

Lmfao
Thanks for making my tits bounce uncontrollably Rawd, papa and socialstrat. Oh my gosh

 

[RAWD]

Lmfao
Thanks for making my tits bounce uncontrollably Rawd, papa and socialstrat. Oh my gosh

That's the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me!

 

[oldguyzer]

Thanks for making my tits bounce uncontrollably

Video? We need proof! :-Cool/"

 

[Firefox]

When you lose your job. Haven't worked in 6 months and you start with the self pity. You haven't touched her since because it won't get up because you haven't contributed to any bills during those months. You won't listen to her when she says it's OK, things will get better.


The bottom line is if you become a hermit, she will leave or cheat on you.