Did she cross the line?.
Talk about a sticky situation.A woman who goes by the username serephine16 is asking for marriage advice on a chatboard on mumsnet.com, a parenting website. But this isn't the usual "how to spice things up in the bedroom" or "how to get my husband to pay more attention" post. Her situation is a lot... porn-ier.
It all started when serephine16 discovered her husband had been frequenting a pornographic subreddit called "GoneWild" where women post nude pictures. She eventually confronted him about it:
Ok- me 40, dh 44. So a few months back I found out my dh had been on a porn subreddit called gonewild a few times a week for months, which is basically real 18+ something women posting nudes of themselves.
I was heavily pregnant and really low in myself, depressed and low self esteem, and in past conversations my dh had reassured me he wasn't the type to look at porn, disagreed with it vehemently to a point where he would get angry if I asked him did he ever use it.
So we agreed porn had no place in our marriage. What has effected me the most, besides feeling totally inadequate was his ability to lie so convincingly and easily and it has created a huge trust problem in our marriage and I've struggled with this everyday since.
By the way, DH stands for "dear husband."So great, the two agreed that porn had no place in their marriage! Case closed, right? Well...not so much. Here are where things took a turn:
Now to the point of this post- a little while after going through the subreddit he was on and torturing myself I discovered there was a gonewild30plus subreddit which again is women 30 and over posting nudes, so as pissed as I was with him I decided to get my own back and I posted a picture of my own boobs on the 30 plus page and I told him
So now OP has her boobies on the internet, her husband is perusing porn, and it seems like things are about to get a lot worse:
During the time it was up I got messages and comments and upvotes from men and although I genuinely felt uncomfortable having such an intimate picture of myself on show, I felt very flattered and it upped my self esteem no end.
I took the picture down as my Dh went completely crazy, extremely angry, and has said that what I have done is far far worse then him going onto the same type page basically for god knows how long and looking at many different pictures of young woman and lying to me about it. He's so angry he can't even think about it without blowing up.
What I'm asking here is, was I completely out of order doing what I did? I genuinely don't think it's as bad as what he did, but am completely open to all your thoughts and opinions.In hindsight I do realize tit for tat in a marriage is very unhealthy and I regret that aspect of it.
Well, this is certainly a pickle. And maybe serephine16 did take the whole "tit for tat" thing a little literally, but most people thought what she did was 100% justified."I think what you did was Brilliant, OP! And as your pregnant him saying your boobs are for him to look at would anger the hell out of me. No they are your boobs, not his! Cheeky sod. He will try to spin this on you to get out of what he did .
Don't let him!" wrote one commenter. "Genius move. You're calling out his hypocrisy. So it's ok for him to get off on pictures of naked women but he's not happy for his daughter/wife, etc to be those naked women. He doesn't sound very bright" wrote another.But some felt that serephine16 crossed a line.
"My first reaction to one up my husband would not be posting tit shots on a website. So to prove your point you've posted something onto a website that you class as a porn website - something which you disagree your husband looking at.
Go figure." What do you think? Is serephine16 in the wrong for posting her boobs? Is her husband in the wrong for being mad? Are they both stupid idiots in their own special way?Let us know in the comments below.
Woman Posts Her Boobs On Porn Site After Learning Her Husband Lurks There. She Kind Of Regrets It. | Someecards Sex
Talk about a sticky situation.A woman who goes by the username serephine16 is asking for marriage advice on a chatboard on mumsnet.com, a parenting website. But this isn't the usual "how to spice things up in the bedroom" or "how to get my husband to pay more attention" post. Her situation is a lot... porn-ier.
It all started when serephine16 discovered her husband had been frequenting a pornographic subreddit called "GoneWild" where women post nude pictures. She eventually confronted him about it:
Ok- me 40, dh 44. So a few months back I found out my dh had been on a porn subreddit called gonewild a few times a week for months, which is basically real 18+ something women posting nudes of themselves.
I was heavily pregnant and really low in myself, depressed and low self esteem, and in past conversations my dh had reassured me he wasn't the type to look at porn, disagreed with it vehemently to a point where he would get angry if I asked him did he ever use it.
So we agreed porn had no place in our marriage. What has effected me the most, besides feeling totally inadequate was his ability to lie so convincingly and easily and it has created a huge trust problem in our marriage and I've struggled with this everyday since.
By the way, DH stands for "dear husband."So great, the two agreed that porn had no place in their marriage! Case closed, right? Well...not so much. Here are where things took a turn:
Now to the point of this post- a little while after going through the subreddit he was on and torturing myself I discovered there was a gonewild30plus subreddit which again is women 30 and over posting nudes, so as pissed as I was with him I decided to get my own back and I posted a picture of my own boobs on the 30 plus page and I told him
So now OP has her boobies on the internet, her husband is perusing porn, and it seems like things are about to get a lot worse:
During the time it was up I got messages and comments and upvotes from men and although I genuinely felt uncomfortable having such an intimate picture of myself on show, I felt very flattered and it upped my self esteem no end.
I took the picture down as my Dh went completely crazy, extremely angry, and has said that what I have done is far far worse then him going onto the same type page basically for god knows how long and looking at many different pictures of young woman and lying to me about it. He's so angry he can't even think about it without blowing up.
What I'm asking here is, was I completely out of order doing what I did? I genuinely don't think it's as bad as what he did, but am completely open to all your thoughts and opinions.In hindsight I do realize tit for tat in a marriage is very unhealthy and I regret that aspect of it.
Well, this is certainly a pickle. And maybe serephine16 did take the whole "tit for tat" thing a little literally, but most people thought what she did was 100% justified."I think what you did was Brilliant, OP! And as your pregnant him saying your boobs are for him to look at would anger the hell out of me. No they are your boobs, not his! Cheeky sod. He will try to spin this on you to get out of what he did .
Don't let him!" wrote one commenter. "Genius move. You're calling out his hypocrisy. So it's ok for him to get off on pictures of naked women but he's not happy for his daughter/wife, etc to be those naked women. He doesn't sound very bright" wrote another.But some felt that serephine16 crossed a line.
"My first reaction to one up my husband would not be posting tit shots on a website. So to prove your point you've posted something onto a website that you class as a porn website - something which you disagree your husband looking at.
Go figure." What do you think? Is serephine16 in the wrong for posting her boobs? Is her husband in the wrong for being mad? Are they both stupid idiots in their own special way?Let us know in the comments below.
Woman Posts Her Boobs On Porn Site After Learning Her Husband Lurks There. She Kind Of Regrets It. | Someecards Sex
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