Screening with Legal Names

[Fiddy]

I've noticed a lot of the professional SP's in Ontario require people's legal names. Given the large number of people living in Ontario and the GTA it's understandable.

Generally speaking in Alberta, ladies screen with handles and referrals. No one really ask for legal names to book with an SP. With of of the distrust, drama and issues out west, it would probably be an ad idea to give anyone in Alberta a legal name. Lack of discretion is a huge problem in AB. People share way more than they should.

If a guy wants to see one of the many great ladies in the GTA during a trip. You suddenly have a huge problem. All of the drama out west means most clients from AB don't have legal name references to see ladies out east.

How are you guys handling references in Ontario?

 

[Hitter]

It defeats the purpose of having a hobby phone. The ladies may do as they wish but I will never ever give out my real name. If it falls into the wrong hands you are screwed.

 

[What A Wookie]

I understand the safety concerns and I'm fine with reasonable screening requests. But I'd never give anyone my full name, place of business, LinkedIn or anything like that (though no one has ever asked.) If it was a non-negotiable requirement I would move on.

 

[DannyDevito]

They also won't have my business. Too bad as there are a few I wouldn't mind taking them bowling.

 

[Fiddy]

It defeats the purpose of having a hobby phone. The ladies may do as they wish but I will never ever give out my real name. If it falls into the wrong hands you are screwed.

I feel very much the same way. People "Dirty" one another for forgetting to turn the dishwasher on the other night.

Real name screening would help the ladies operate safer but at the expense of the safety and sanity of the client. It's not exactly ideal.

In Britian, you don't really have much of a choice. That's why the guys have their own Punter boards separated from any of the advertising sites.

 

[papasmerf]

As long as they provided me with a copy of their government ID first, I will comply.

 

[cristycurves]

LOL, seriously, some of you guys make me laugh. There are sp's, maybe even myself, who deal with very high profile clients, and if they can divulge personal info, you gents surely could!! It is in a sp's BEST interest to protect a clients info with her life. I mean, do you really think anyone cares who any of you sleep with? A sp's safety should and always will trump your need for privacy. But continue on with those who don't require a screening process, but don't rant on review boards when they decide to rip you off, or play other games. Anonymity comes with risk as well.

 

[papasmerf]

LOL, seriously, some of you guys make me laugh. There are sp's, maybe even myself, who deal with very high profile clients, and if they can divulge personal info, you gents surely could!! It is in an sp's BEST interest to protect a clients info with her life. I mean, do you really think anyone cares who any of you sleep with? A sp's safety should and always will trump your need for privacy. But continue on with those who don't require a screening process, but don't rant on review boards when they decide to rip you off, or play other games. Anonymity comes with risk as well.

In return will you reveal your personal info on demand?

 

[cristycurves]

In return will you reveal your personal info on demand?

That is such a childish response. You don't think my trail- my name, my website, all my ads and my reputation, that's taken me years to develop, is enough? If I were to do something to you, you have a trail to follow, you have recourse. If my client were simply a burner cell number, how could I track or trace him?
Let me explain further-because responses like yours gets me very angry!!
Many sites we, (Professional ladies/escorts/mpa/sp's/companions) advertise on or register to, require our real identity, you should know that. WE also invest our personal time and money, more importantly TIME, to grow ourselves, our reputation, our ads, etc, so YOU, the clients can have someone safe to spend time with, and so you can feel safe. WE INVEST this time, not willy nillyily, but with thought, care and due diligence, again, so YOU, the client , can have someone to feel SAFE with. For all that , we simply want to know WHO YOU ARE and you want to belittle that!!! Those of you who just off the cuff think, that isn't enough, need a reality check and please don't throw at me that there have been some "professional" women that have misused or blackmailed clients. Because a few bad apples exist, that doesn't negate another's professionalism, or change matters. If that did, then because of the rapists clients, con-clients and other nasty guys, we then should be asked and encouraged to increase our screening methods, not be pushed into or encouraged , as many of you are trying, to get us to loosen our screening practices !

 

[papasmerf]

That is such a childish response. You don't think my trail- my name, my website, all my ads and my reputation, that's taken me years to develop, is enough? If I were to do something to you, you have a trail to follow, you have recourse. If my client were simply a burner cell number, how could I track or trace him?
Let me explain further-because responses like yours gets me very angry!!
Many sites we, (Professional ladies/escorts/mpa/sp's/companions) advertise on or register to, require our real identity, you should know that. WE also invest our personal time and money, more importantly TIME, to grow ourselves, our reputation, our ads, etc, so YOU, the clients can have someone safe to spend time with, and so you can feel safe. WE INVEST this time, not willy nillyily, but with thought, care and due diligence, again, so YOU, the client , can have someone to feel SAFE with. For all that , we simply want to know WHO YOU ARE and you want to belittle that!!! Those of you who just off the cuff think that isn't enough, need a reality check and please don't throw at me that there have been some "professional" women that have misused or blackmailed clients. Because a few bad apples exist, that doesn't negate another's professionalism, or change matters. If that did, then because of the rapists clients, con-clients and other nasty guys, we then should be asked and encouraged to increase our screening methods, not be pushed into or encouraged , as many of you are trying, to loosen our methods!

So.......You consider it an unreasonable request?

As do I.

 

[cristycurves]

So.......You consider it an unreasonable request?

As do I.

and thank you Papa for doing my screening for me

 

[User-E]

And yet some of us manage to be safe all these years even though we've never screened or asked for references from anyone.

:blush2:

 

[papasmerf]

And yet some of us manage to be safe all these years even though we've never screened or asked for references from anyone.

:blush2:

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Nothing can replace going with your gut.
Remember most neighbors when discussing serial killers say: "They seemed so nice and quiet."

 

[cristycurves]

And yet some of us manage to be safe all these years even though we've never screened or asked for references from anyone.

:blush2:

Well some people are lucky, perhaps you are some. It is always disturbing to me, when one lady seemingly encourages behavior from clients that flies in the face of all of ladies safety. if you're ever unfortunate enough to suffer at the hands of an ill meaning client, if ever you are raped, or worse, which I hope never happens, I'm sure you too, will change your tune and your screening methods.


I'm not even going to continue on with this discussion because women and men-sp's/escorts, those who sell, have died and there are to many. How often do you hear of a client dying at the hands of an sp/escort, someone selling? I think the scales tip in the forementioned. Therefore I stand with my opinion on being tough with your screening.

 

[papasmerf]

Well some people are lucky, perhaps you are some. It is always disturbing to me, when one lady seemingly encourages behavior from clients that flies in the face of all of ladies safety. if you're ever unfortunate enough to suffer at the hands of a ill meaning client, if ever you are raped, or worse, which I hope never happens, I'm sure you too, will change your tune and your screening methods.

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Cristy consider this........Screening with id is like a security camera....Useful only after an event.
However if a skilled criminal knows they are there....The camera(s) only see what the criminal wants them to.

 

[User-E]

Well some people are lucky, perhaps you are some. It is always disturbing to me, when one lady seemingly encourages behavior from clients that flies in the face of all of ladies safety. if you're ever unfortunate enough to suffer at the hands of an ill meaning client, if ever you are raped, or worse, which I hope never happens, I'm sure you too, will change your tune and your screening methods.


I'm not even going to continue on with this discussion because women and men-sp's/escorts, those who sell, have died and there are to many. How often do you hear of a client dying at the hands of an sp/escort, someone selling? I think the scales tip in the forementioned. Therefore I stand with my opinion on being tough with your screening.

I was sexually assaulted by a regular client I'd been seeing for 8 years, so screening wouldn't have helped in that situation, and no, I didn't change my screening policy after that.

Cristy, you're very quick to demean anyone who doesn't agree with you. I don't appreciate you implying I'm an idiot, or that I'm putting other ladies in danger because I choose not to ask for references.

I'm a very smart business woman with very good intuition and common sense. I don't need to know my client's real names or talk to other SP's who might have seen them.

 

[Fuggedabouditt]

I agree with Papa. A skilled perp will know how to get around things like security cameras. It would be easy enough to get around screening. Although, screening has it's merits and can make an SP feel as safe as she can/wants with that info, I can easily create a persona when it's just over the phone or internet, just like SP's can create one and change names, locations, numbers etc....

I'm sure if I were to give my board handle (as this persona), I'd be refused immediately. Yet, if I were to give any of my past handles, I'd be welcomed with open arms. See how easy that was?

My agency security thread was just the tip (hahaha) of the iceberg. The whole idea of safety is nullified with the continuing criminalization of prostitution. Even if it were to be de-crim'd, there would still be safety issues but hopefully, a lot less. As a society, we're always at risk because of nefarious characters. Even in a Utopian society, there is

 

[ERecTile]

I think we generalized too much in this thread. Everyone will conduct their business and hobby in ways that are comfortable to them based on their own experiences.

 

[Fuggedabouditt]

I think we generalized too much in this thread. Everyone will conduct their business and hobby in ways that are comfortable to them based on their own experiences.

Everyone just go out and get fucked. I did last night and she was fucking incredible.

 

[ERecTile]

Everyone just go out and get fucked. I did last night and she was fucking incredible.

Best advice so far.