I once had a boyfriend who had no control. We'd be making out and he'd literally cum in his pants without me even touching his penis.
I'll assume you're serious :wink2: (unlike papaskeptic), so here's some of the research I've done:
How Not to Cum too Fast
I had a massage client yesterday who was asking for advice on learning how not to cum too fast.
As I was doing his massage, I went down the list of things I have learned along the way.
He told me that the method that works best for him, is to do math in his head to take his mind off how good it feels.
I had massaged all his aching muscles, teased him for a while by running my hands slowly up and down from his ankles to his buttocks, tracing gently up the inside of his thighs, coming close but not touching his cock which was growing and throbbing as it peeked out at me from beneath his balls.
I climbed up on the table, (naked except for my panties) and slid my body up and down his back and buttocks until he was groaning in blissful agony ... then finally gave him permission to roll over.
Since I knew he was gonna have a hard time lasting any time at all, I told him I would demonstrate the almost motionless, barely moving technique I’d been perfecting over the last several months.
I climbed up on the table again, and sat on his chest, straddling him in RCG position, so that my ass (panties still on) was just inches away from his face.
I find this to be a great position for HJ happy endings because I can basically pin the client to the table so he’s helpless to move and unable to grab my hands to stop me from doing what I’m doing.
I sat and watched his cock spasm and pulsate, as he wanted to cum so bad already ... not touching him at all, then just stroking his inner thighs and stomach until he calmed down a bit.
We’d been having a naughty conversation all throughout the massage too, so he was just as turned on in his mind as he was in his body.
I could tell he was struggling, and remembering what he’d mentioned about doing math to take his mind off things, I started to talk out loud saying, ‘One plus one is two, two plus two is four ...’.
He burst out laughing, and said that he has to do multiplication in his head because he used to struggle with that in school. I told him I remembered having a hard time with division, but ended up passing Grade 13 trigonometry and calculus, so I guess I did ok.
Now, where was I ... oh yes ...
I finally poured some warm oil all over his penis and balls and took him in my hands, not moving or stroking, just gradually increasing the pressure.
When a guy is highly aroused and wants nothing more than to have his cock stroked hard and fast so he can get off, it drives him nuts to hold his cock motionless, and not let him cum. Sometimes they are so turned on in their minds that they can think themselves into an orgasm without needing the physical stimulation.
After teasing him for a good long while – it’s so much fun to give guys who usually cum too fast, a good long time of teasing because they rarely get to experience extended times of extreme pleasure and arousal – I could tell he couldn’t take much more, so gradually increased the tempo.
He asked if I was finally gonna let him cum, and when I said yes, he groaned with relief and within seconds, exploded like a fire hydrant, shooting huge spurts of cum several feet down the table as I ground my pussy into his chest and milked every drop from him.
So, here’s a list of things I’ve cum up with to help guys last longer.• Think about math.
• Think about something awful like death or taxes.
• Change position or activity.
• Learn which positions don’t excite you as much. If you can’t last in doggie cause looking at her ass sends you over the edge, save that position for when you do want to finish.
• Experiment with applying pressure at the base of your penis with your thumb and forefinger to see if that helps. It cuts off the flow of semen from traveling up and out, sometimes enabling you to have a ‘dry orgasm’ where you cum but don’t ejaculate.
• Slow down and learn to slow down before it’s too late
• Jerk off before having sex
• When you masturbate, practice bringing yourself close, then stop. Repeat, repeat, repeat.
• Focus on giving pleasure to your partner.
• Use a dildo on your partner while you take a break.
• Learn how to tell your partner you’re struggling and you want to last longer. Tell them you need to stop, slow down, change position, or whatever it takes.
• Another fun way to control your orgasms is to learn to 'cum on command'.
Both men and women can learn how to submit to their partner, and only orgasm when given the verbal command.
Hope that helps! :biggrin2:
