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A real woman.GWYNETH Montenegro says she has slept with more than 10,000 men.She first stepped into a brothel at age 21, lured by the prospect of earning up to $1000 for an hour’s work. While she doesn’t regret her 12 years as a sex worker, Montenegro, 39, says she is glad to be out.
Now, she is trained in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), an approach to personal development and psychotherapy made popular by American motivational speaker Tony Robbins. She teaches women how to “understand” men and get the most out of their relationships.Here she answers all our questions about the reality of sex work and what men really want.
How did you first get in to sex work?“I never wanted to get into the sex industry in the first place. I was 18, I went out to a nightclub and my drink was spiked and I got taken away and gang raped by 6-8 men — I can’t remember exactly how many because I was so out of it.
“It kind of changed my opinion about myself. I felt I wasn’t worthy anymore, that I wasn’t good enough. I came from a Christian family and I was saving myself for marriage and then I got raped. So I went the other way ... I was very promiscuous. I ended up in the table top dancing industry when I was 19.
”How did you transition from stripping to being paid for sex?“I felt that I’d already crossed a line when I stripped, so it didn’t seem that far off at the time.I thought ‘Oh well, if I don’t like it, I can always walk out after the first shift’.
“It was totally surreal. Once you’ve been paid for sex once, you can’t take that back. I just found I was able to compartmentalise and switch my feelings off, because I already felt dirty.
“The money was really good and the money is what kept me in the industry for all those years. I don’t recommend anyone do it.
”How much did you charge?“I would charge $500-$1000 an hour — that depended on the services. Usually you had to do quite a bit for that.“I was so young and naive when I started out. I was a good country girl. I was so surprised when someone paid me for sex. I wasn’t very experienced and the ladies told me ‘Our basic thing is basic sex and a massage’.
“I was naive, I didn’t even know what the ‘extras’ were. Over time I would do other things, like I was able to do kissing and toys and dress ups.”Did you ever have to do anything really crazy?
“A lot of them don’t want all this hardcore kinky sex — that’s such a small percentage of the men. I was in the industry for 12 years — that’s a long time. But I didn’t see a lot of the men that had these sick fantasies. Most of it was just normal sex.”Was it always just about sex or did the men want emotional comfort too?“It’s more than just sex. There’s always a psychological motivation for sex, it’s not just a physical urge. A lot of the clients I would see would be an hour plus and I mean sure, they wanted the sex, but a big part of my job was just talking.
“There was always some sort of psychological game from it. There was always a feeling of … you could sort of tell they felt more validated as a man or some of them felt like ‘I can control you’. They’d walk out with this strut.”Why do you think men seek out sex workers?“Because that man feels emasculated in his relationship, he wants to feel masculine again.They’re seeking validity for their virility.
Virility is very important to men.“There’s also a group of men who want to play the game. They get an intense delight out of controlling women. They get more of a kick out of feeling like they control you, than they do off the actual sex. So a lot of it is from a psychological motivation.”Do you think men have changed over the years?“I don’t want to be so brazen as to just blame feminism for this.
However, I think there is a part to play where men do feel emasculated. They don’t know ‘should I open the door? Will I get yelled at?’“A lot of the time the grip is they don’t know what it is to be a man anymore.
They’ve lost their way. That’s what I’ve seen in my clients.”What advice can you give to women who say they’re baffled or completely confused by the behaviour of men?“Detach the emotions — look at it from the outside.
The man will give you all the cues from his behaviour and his relationships.“You’ll be able to pick out if this person is going to be a long term thing or not really the right fit for you.”
Former sex worker says she’s slept with 10,000 men
Now, she is trained in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), an approach to personal development and psychotherapy made popular by American motivational speaker Tony Robbins. She teaches women how to “understand” men and get the most out of their relationships.Here she answers all our questions about the reality of sex work and what men really want.
How did you first get in to sex work?“I never wanted to get into the sex industry in the first place. I was 18, I went out to a nightclub and my drink was spiked and I got taken away and gang raped by 6-8 men — I can’t remember exactly how many because I was so out of it.
“It kind of changed my opinion about myself. I felt I wasn’t worthy anymore, that I wasn’t good enough. I came from a Christian family and I was saving myself for marriage and then I got raped. So I went the other way ... I was very promiscuous. I ended up in the table top dancing industry when I was 19.
”How did you transition from stripping to being paid for sex?“I felt that I’d already crossed a line when I stripped, so it didn’t seem that far off at the time.I thought ‘Oh well, if I don’t like it, I can always walk out after the first shift’.
“It was totally surreal. Once you’ve been paid for sex once, you can’t take that back. I just found I was able to compartmentalise and switch my feelings off, because I already felt dirty.
“The money was really good and the money is what kept me in the industry for all those years. I don’t recommend anyone do it.
”How much did you charge?“I would charge $500-$1000 an hour — that depended on the services. Usually you had to do quite a bit for that.“I was so young and naive when I started out. I was a good country girl. I was so surprised when someone paid me for sex. I wasn’t very experienced and the ladies told me ‘Our basic thing is basic sex and a massage’.
“I was naive, I didn’t even know what the ‘extras’ were. Over time I would do other things, like I was able to do kissing and toys and dress ups.”Did you ever have to do anything really crazy?
“A lot of them don’t want all this hardcore kinky sex — that’s such a small percentage of the men. I was in the industry for 12 years — that’s a long time. But I didn’t see a lot of the men that had these sick fantasies. Most of it was just normal sex.”Was it always just about sex or did the men want emotional comfort too?“It’s more than just sex. There’s always a psychological motivation for sex, it’s not just a physical urge. A lot of the clients I would see would be an hour plus and I mean sure, they wanted the sex, but a big part of my job was just talking.
“There was always some sort of psychological game from it. There was always a feeling of … you could sort of tell they felt more validated as a man or some of them felt like ‘I can control you’. They’d walk out with this strut.”Why do you think men seek out sex workers?“Because that man feels emasculated in his relationship, he wants to feel masculine again.They’re seeking validity for their virility.
Virility is very important to men.“There’s also a group of men who want to play the game. They get an intense delight out of controlling women. They get more of a kick out of feeling like they control you, than they do off the actual sex. So a lot of it is from a psychological motivation.”Do you think men have changed over the years?“I don’t want to be so brazen as to just blame feminism for this.
However, I think there is a part to play where men do feel emasculated. They don’t know ‘should I open the door? Will I get yelled at?’“A lot of the time the grip is they don’t know what it is to be a man anymore.
They’ve lost their way. That’s what I’ve seen in my clients.”What advice can you give to women who say they’re baffled or completely confused by the behaviour of men?“Detach the emotions — look at it from the outside.
The man will give you all the cues from his behaviour and his relationships.“You’ll be able to pick out if this person is going to be a long term thing or not really the right fit for you.”
Former sex worker says she’s slept with 10,000 men
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@Rolex, just seeing your post now, thank you for that interesting post. I'm sure there are many escorts who would relay a similar story, albeit with a different outcome or change to occupations.
A real woman imo, is a women with a sense of herself which is unaffected by convention or others opinions, she is confident with humility, and is kind and excepting of others.
A real woman imo, is a women with a sense of herself which is unaffected by convention or others opinions, she is confident with humility, and is kind and excepting of others.
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@ Cristy: Are you up late, or up early?
I have a HUGE business meeting today at 3:00 PM. I'm going to catch 40 winks soon. Seven months of twenty hour days are about to pay off large. I can't say I'm crazy about your haircut, but perhaps that's to be a blonde, brunette, or redhead, on demand? If things go well today, the dominoes will start to fall. Not here, where it matters.
I have a HUGE business meeting today at 3:00 PM. I'm going to catch 40 winks soon. Seven months of twenty hour days are about to pay off large. I can't say I'm crazy about your haircut, but perhaps that's to be a blonde, brunette, or redhead, on demand? If things go well today, the dominoes will start to fall. Not here, where it matters.
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Not only are you opinionated, you're also nosey...........lol. I'm up late and early
As far as my haircut, I cut it to suit my taste, not yoursFlash Bazbo
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Not only are you opinionated, you're also nosey...........lol. I'm up late and early
I'll take the hint, and a hiatus.
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I speak my mind with no hidden anything or hints.... and I don't think you should take a hiatus, nor stop posting. Just expect responses to reflect how your posts are individually read.
I think so. Maybe seeing the odd favourite regular, no idea.
She popped up on the red board once just to say hi.
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Jasper, I remember Mike Nomad from the Steve Roper comic strip, but not Honeydew Mellon. If these are avatar people from boards, I don't know of them.
Miss Jessica Lee and I never met in person. I knew her in word, but not in deed; metaphorically, but not Biblically, so to speak.
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I suppose it would be practical, if someone had their hair pulled a lot.
Oh, btw, I found an Absent Landlord beer can by the baseball diamond this morning. I also got a couple of Farmageddon beer labels, on wax paper, at the Bellwoods Brewery on Ossington Ave, last Saturday. I had a cold Monogamy, but I mostly just collect their long neck bottles and label art. I now have 4 Roman Candle, 3 Jutsu, 3 Monogamy, 2 Ghost Orchid, and one each of Jelly King, 12 Star Session, and Wizard Wolf, but I only drank the one myself!. Next time I'm there, I'll bag a Cat Lady.
I stopped by the 'Templar Lodge' a couple of blocks away, but there was a scheduled event in progress; a wedding reception, I believe, to which I was not invited.
A Templar Lodge is different from a Masonic Temple, in that it is a venue for events of diverse nature, as opposed to a building which hosts a specific group membership. A Masonic Temple is more akin to the clubhouse of the 'Water Buffalo Lodge' to which Fred Flintstone and Barney Rubble belonged; a place where married men wear funny looking hats, when they want to evade the ball and chain, so to speak. A Templar Lodge is only a venue rented for specific private functions of various sizes. It's open to the general public, on days when events are scheduled, but prior to their commencement. The architecture has classical Masonic styling, from the period in which it was built, but the interior sound and light system is thoroughly modern. Young 'alt and goth' adults in particular like to visit the building, when the front door is open. It has the same appeal as a 'haunted house', a building where diverse activities have occurred, but at a different position in time.
Depends on your perspective, but taking a view of her entire life.
Sensitive and compassionate.
Pretty, but not self obsessed.
Flirty and passionate.
Intelligent and creative.
Assertive but not domineering.
Aware of the needs of others.
Patient and loving when dealing with children.
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The old jokes about the perfect man, and the perfect woman, from the days before 'Social Engineering':
The Perfect Woman:
A deaf and dumb nymphomaniac that owns a liquor store.
or
Waist high, no teeth, flat head you can rest your drink on.
The Perfect Man:
Three feet tall, ten inch tongue, breathes through his ears.
Don't blame me for those, I didn't write them! There were some other punchlines for each, told less frequently. I can't remember them anymore.
This is one of my own:
"A woman who thinks logically is worth her weight in gold, unless she's really fat, in which case, the gold would be worth more".
It makes perfect sense. Gold is worth, like $5K a pound. Who's going to pay that much, except a guy going through a divorce. Not too many unattached guys can afford to live 'that large', and if they could, they wouldn't.
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