Blunders

[nntsci]

The theme of this thread is about blunders you made that nearly exposed your hobby to your significant other (assuming you have one).

The following story is not my biggest blunder ever, but its my most recent.

Last month, my wife was out of the city for a week (yippee). I asked a young lady service provider if she would like to spend a night with me in Niagara on the Lake, see a play, wine and dine, and generally have a lot of fun. She said yes and it was fantastic (for both of us). She had in fact never been tot he Shaw Festival before so it was a real treat for her. So I picked her up in Mississauga and took the 403 towards Niagara. I was driving in the HOV lane (which only requires 2 people for "high occupancy". I'm not sure how but somewhere between the excitement of spending a night with her, or perhaps it was trying to help her figure out how to use my car's sound system, I missed the turn off where the 403 exits, and ended up on the 407 heading to Hamilton. Its rather sneaky the way they designed it so that going straight exits a free highway and enters a toll highway. The road is not the issue because it ends up connecting with the 403 again just before the Burlington Bridge, but the 407 is a toll road and they take a picture of your car and send you a bill. The cost is trivial (about $10 for that stretch of road) but the bill would go to my home mail. I've been very careful to make sure no bills related to my hobby EVER are mailed to my home, but this bill was a potential problem. So for the past 3 weeks I've been checking the mail, hoping that I'd get the bill first.

Tragedy averted... I collected the mail today, got the 407 bill, paid it and quickly ripped it up. My wife does know there is a bill for the 407 (I drove her to the airport), but she will never see the little detail of the extra $9 (plus tax) it cost to travel down the 407 towards Hamilton and then to Niagara for an overnight stay will a lovely lady.

Any similar blunders?

 

[HOBO]

Couldn't you have told her if she ever found out that it was driving for business purposes?.

 

[nntsci]

Couldn't you have told her if she ever found out that it was driving for business purposes?.

If it was some other route, yes, but not that one -- no work contacts in the area --. I was trying to come up with an explanation... would have tried it... glad I didn't have to.

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

A really good excuse for if you are caught somewhere you shouldn't be like a part of town or an apartment building or neighbourhood.... you were taking a look at something that someone was selling off of kijiji. If there is a coffee shop attached to the hotel you're visiting, buy a coffee on the way in or out so you have a cup in your hand when your SO's best friend happens to bump into you.

As for personal blunders, many moons ago on a super old pay-as-you-go Virgin phone, my phone decided to send Happy New Year greetings to every open message on my phone. Oh the horror! I wasn't actually advertising back then so no curious SO could have searched my number and figured out who I was unless they thought to randomly spell out some of the numbers or search only the last four digits :tongue:

 

[Rolex]

A really good excuse for if you are caught somewhere you shouldn't be like a part of town or an apartment building or neighbourhood.... you were taking a look at something that someone was selling off of kijiji. If there is a coffee shop attached to the hotel you're visiting, buy a coffee on the way in or out so you have a cup in your hand when your SO's best friend happens to bump into you.

As for personal blunders, many moons ago on a super old pay-as-you-go Virgin phone, my phone decided to send Happy New Year greetings to every open message on my phone. Oh the horror! I wasn't actually advertising back then so no curious SO could have searched my number and figured out who I was unless they thought to randomly spell out some of the numbers or search only the last four digits :tongue:

I will take that advice in case caught in that situation.

 

[Guido]

My wife is not allowed to read my mail.

Nnff said?.

 

[nntsci]

My wife is not allowed to read my mail.

Nnff said?.

Bills are mailed to the house; she pays most of them from her account or from our joint account... because I forget.

Doesn't open other letters, but the 407 is a bill she would open (as is the water bill, the hydro, the gas bill, the property taxes, and the credit cards).

It might look a little suspicious if I suddenly got private about the bills, lol.

 

[Hitter]

Bills are mailed to the house; she pays most of them from her account or from our joint account... because I forget.

Doesn't open other letters, but the 407 is a bill she would open (as is the water bill, the hydro, the gas bill, the property taxes, and the credit cards).

It might look a little suspicious if I suddenly got private about the bills, lol.

Tell them you want to go paperless and give them your email address. Case solved.

 

[nntsci]

Tell them you want to go paperless and give them your email address. Case solved.

Wouldn't work for last month... But I'll keep in mind in future. I am paperless for the one credit card I hobby with the others 2 I want her to see. The 407 issue will likely not come up again.

 

[What A Wookie]

Thankfully single and nothing to hide.

 

[Prick]

Just get a new wife.


$500 is the fee for my advice. PM me so I can collect.

 

[nntsci]

Just get a new wife.


$500 is the fee for my advice. PM me so I can collect.

LOL...

that's a very expensive solution to a bill for $9.

(and by expensive I meant cost of changing wives, not your fee, lol).

 

[GoPro]

Ask for a tax receipt.

 

[George Costanza]

Thankfully single and nothing to hide.

How did you get so lucky?.

 

[DILLIGAF]

Just out of curiosity for however it happened what would you do if you ever got outted by an sp or another member on a board publicly?
I see on some boards some vicious discussion's and absolute hatred exchanged back and forth and I have seen some outings and just wonder what I would do if it ever happened to me? What would do if it happened to you? What would an sp do if you were outted. What would an agency do if a lady outted a client?

DILLIGAF

 

[nntsci]

Just out of curiosity for however it happened what would you do if you ever got outted by an sp or another member on a board publicly?
I see on some boards some vicious discussion's and absolute hatred exchanged back and forth and I have seen some outings and just wonder what I would do if it ever happened to me? What would do if it happened to you? What would an sp do if you were outted. What would an agency do if a lady outted a client?

DILLIGAF

Excellent question... we live in a precarious balance of mutual assured destruction with clients and providers both wanting / needing privacy.

For me, I suppose I'd just live with it... It wouldn't be that big a deal. I do like my wife, but the relationship is rather boring. My kids are adults and technically on their own so divorce wouldn't be that big a deal; no need for child support. So the family assets would just be split down the middle.

 

[DILLIGAF]

Excellent question... we live in a precarious balance of mutual assured destruction with clients and providers both wanting / needing privacy.

For me, I suppose I'd just live with it... It wouldn't be that big a deal. I do like my wife, but the relationship is rather boring. My kids are adults and technically on their own so divorce wouldn't be that big a deal; no need for child support. So the family assets would just be split down the middle.

@nntsci
Thanks for your input. You seem to be OK with it on a personal life side of things but what about your business side of life?
Would an outing have any affect on you? And again what would you do!

DILLGAF

 

[nntsci]

@nntsci
Thanks for your input. You seem to be OK with it on a personal life side of things but what about your business side of life?
Would an outing have any affect on you? And again what would you do!

DILLGAF

I don't think it would really affect me on a business side of things.
My career doesn't require a clean life, lol.
It could actually lead to some interesting changes...
the focus on my job for one thing (I can't say how without giving away too much information),
and also I've thought about writing a novel(s) based on my sexual adventures (all things changed to protect identities),
but have been restrained by not wanting my wife to know about it... considered using a pen name, but...

 

[DILLIGAF]

I don't think it would really affect me on a business side of things.
My career doesn't require a clean life, lol.
It could actually lead to some interesting changes...
the focus on my job for one thing (I can't say how without giving away too much information),
and also I've thought about writing a novel(s) based on my sexual adventures (all things changed to protect identities),
but have been restrained by not wanting my wife to know about it... considered using a pen name, but...

Now that would be a book to read!! LOL
The reason I am asking this is that I have seen several people of the last while outted big time!!!!
In all cases it caused major harm personal and business.
I made a mistake years ago by seeing a lady from an agency and we became text/email friends. I continued to book her via the agency then all of a sudden I get these email blasts that she is sending out to everyone she knows looking for money to pay rent. I am seeing every name in her group email, thank god my private email address has nothing to do with my name or my business. Just see on some boards that outing is an accepted standard and was wondering what if anything could be done or what anyone would do?

DILLIGAF

 

[nntsci]

Now that would be a book to read!! LOL
The reason I am asking this is that I have seen several people of the last while outted big time!!!!
In all cases it caused major harm personal and business.
I made a mistake years ago by seeing a lady from an agency and we became text/email friends. I continued to book her via the agency then all of a sudden I get these email blasts that she is sending out to everyone she knows looking for money to pay rent. I am seeing every name in her group email, thank god my private email address has nothing to do with my name or my business. Just see on some boards that outing is an accepted standard and was wondering what if anything could be done or what anyone would do?

DILLIGAF

Thanks... I too use a separate email to contact ladies. That is a pretty stupid level of indiscretion; lazy really, but not uncommon with people unfamiliar with email. Most would just be able to laugh it off as junk mail to there SO, but pretty stupid anyway.
When the Ashley Madison email was compromised, I received a threat (blackmail), I ignored it (reported it as a phlishing scam)... they had nothing on me anyway as I never met anyone on Ashley Madison.
The ladies I do see a lot know my real name, but I know each of them has a strong motive to remain discrete as well (one is married and I don't think her SO knows)... mutual assured destruction.