Living on your own again

[jumpingjackflash]

:NoNoNo:

I have only met one man I would sleep with....he's married.....

Maybe just maybe you can sleep with him and his wife killing two birds with one stone.

 

[a 1 player]

ok mr "it's all about me" lol.....not too self absorbed are we? :shocking:


hey bliss, welcome to the world of being a man in the 21st century......other than mr player here, most of us have trouble picking up women!!!!!

Of course I say that in jest. Bliss is my buddy, and could make one hell of a good wing chick (if she does not move in and become my competition).

It's not east to meet women, (jeezus, it's not like I have a huge success rate), but it is not as difficult as most people seem to think it is either. Pride, confidence and self-esteem are the number one factors that help you. A bit of game does not help either.

 

[Madman]

Of course I say that in jest. Bliss is my buddy, and could make one hell of a good wing chick (if she does not move in and become my competition).

It's not east to meet women, (jeezus, it's not like I have a huge success rate), but it is not as difficult as most people seem to think it is either. Pride, confidence and self-esteem are the number one factors that help you. A bit of game does not help either.

I couldn't agree with you more. I've seen good looking guys strike out and not so good looking guys with game and a good pitch walk away with babes. Mind you the expensive car parked out in the front probably helped a bit.

I personally just play my piano, wear my glitter and the babes are all over me!:shocking:

 

[tboy]

Of course I say that in jest. Bliss is my buddy, and could make one hell of a good wing chick (if she does not move in and become my competition).

It's not east to meet women, (jeezus, it's not like I have a huge success rate), but it is not as difficult as most people seem to think it is either. Pride, confidence and self-esteem are the number one factors that help you. A bit of game does not help either.

You hit the nail on the head there....which is the rub: you have to be a...ahem...player....lol.....to have "game" and even though women constantly harp on how they hate players, they flock to them in droves.....

(btw, i knew you were being jestful in your post)

Mad: I too have seen average to homely guys get the girls too but once again, they've got game. But then again, the ones I've seen aren't walking away with super models either.....and sure, if I was into corn fed big mid western ho's i'd probably do alright too but i don't like having to roll a woman in flour to find the wet spot and most certainly don't like having to lift up a gunt to finally find her pussy......

Not to start another bitch fest, but in 40 years of being interested in women I've only ever "picked up" a woman once.....every woman i've ever dated or had a relationship with was either a set up by friends, or a lot of emailing via the internet or someone I spent a lot of time with over the course of months before they agreed to go out with me (for eg, a woman i met via a project we were working on together at the office she finally relented after 4 months of me asking).

WHat it is is first impressions. Women make up their mind within 2.2 seconds of laying eyes on you whether you have "it" or not, if you make lousy first impressions it doesn't matter what you look like, who you are really, or what you drive, if you don't make her cream in those 2.2 seconds, you're fucked......

It's kind of like the steak/sizzle scenario: women SAY they want the steak.....but they choose which one by looking at the sizzle first and foremost....(which is why many times once they get past the sizzle they find hamburger instead of prime rib).

 

[Guido]

I too have seen average to homely guys get the girls too but once again, they've got game. But then again, the ones I've seen aren't walking away with super models either.....and sure, if I was into corn fed big mid western ho's i'd probably do alright too but i don't like having to roll a woman in flour to find the wet spot and most certainly don't like having to lift up a gunt to finally find her pussy...... Priceless:rofl1:

WHat it is is first impressions. Women make up their mind within 2.2 seconds of laying eyes on you whether you have "it" or not, if you make lousy first impressions it doesn't matter what you look like, who you are really, or what you drive, if you don't make her cream in those 2.2 seconds, you're fucked...... Very true but I think this applies only for the bar scene. I've seen women fall for a guy after they get to know him but as you said, that takes time.

I think the toughest place to meet a lady is in a nightclub/bar in Toronto. They seem to apply that 2.2 second rule and the looks some of the ladies can dish out are devastation to a fragile ego.

 

[-b]

Hey what can I say....My species are Evil....YES Very Evil....
We know all there is to Know about Man...Their Game...
We make your life complicated and even trying to pick us up....Hell Yes...
We are so confident and self absorb....As you all know we marry for money.....
that is why most of us are married to men who are Wealthy....Damn Canada has
so many wealthy men....See all the women Married to them....Shit we are gold
diggers.....:dontknow: Just get a tee shirt made saying 'I make this at my job....any takers....':rofl1:

a 1 player....you can do better then me...just take your time.....with me I have too much
shit at this point in my life......tboy...I have no trouble asking...and I even make passes at my
friends.....the ones I like....well they tease me...too ... Blowing kisses, licking their lips...laughing
when I turn red...but I get them back......:spiteful: with dirty text messages.....
Repo, I will not go to bed with a married man...SG is right.....
Guido.....If you would change into clothes then you would not have any issues...
get Liberace to pick you out a few things....

 

[SillyGirl]

WHat it is is first impressions. Women make up their mind within 2.2 seconds of laying eyes on you whether you have "it" or not, if you make lousy first impressions it doesn't matter what you look like, who you are really, or what you drive, if you don't make her cream in those 2.2 seconds, you're fucked......

Do men not do the same?

 

[a 1 player]

I think the toughest place to meet a lady is in a nightclub/bar in Toronto. They seem to apply that 2.2 second rule and the looks some of the ladies can dish out are devastation to a fragile ego.

I agree. I am out of my territory in one, so I will almost never try to meet a lady in one.

 

[a 1 player]

Do men not do the same?

I have no idea, from what I see most men have given up trying. I do not.

 

[tboy]

Do men not do the same?

I'd have to say, generally speaking, no.....and not to perpetuate the stereotype but most men are so horned up that they'll give just about any woman a chance.....

For example: I would much prefer a woman who is underweight as opposed to overweight but I have NEVER shot down a woman out of hand simply because she is overweight. Now I will say I've never hit on one, but I've never not chatted one up or ?? in a social environment simply because she had a few extra pounds.

For eg: i was at my local haunt years ago in toronto and would always be hanging around the pool tables with the regulars. One night the regulars were few and far between but there was this hefty girl playing. It was her table (since she'd won the last round) so i put my money up to shoot next. I won and since it wasn't busy, we played for the better part of the night. We joked, carried on, flirted, and had an all around great time. As the night wore on she got more and more attractive to me simply because of her attitude and personality. Now we both knew it wasn't going anywhere but enjoyed each other's company none the less. At the end of the night, I said I was hitting the road after the last game. She game over, I gave her a big hug and she pecked me on the lips and said she had a blast....that was it.

Now in 40 yrs i have NEVER had a woman befriend me for the night like that right off the bat. Even most of the regular women who found out i wasn't a masher or a perv wouldn't give me the time of day....i think 2 (sisters at that) of the 20 or so befriended me to the point that we could hang out, dance, shoot pool etc.....the others? I wasn't good enough for them yet my buddy (who is a lady killer) they were all over like a dirty shirt even though not only have they watched him five F women there, but play two women at the same time on the same night.......

I will raise my hand and openly state that i'm one of the ones who have given up. I've never been happier or more content because i'm not stressed about chasing skirts and getting constantly shot down. This isn't to say that if i met someone and hit it off, i wouldn't persue something, but i'm not going out hitting the bars (there's only two lol) looking for a pickup. There was one at the local convenience store that i found cute so i asked one of the other counter ladies about her and found out she was engaged and living with a guy......(I go to this store all the time and being as this town is so friendly i felt comfortable asking).

Bliss is finding out what it is like being a guy these days.....one night I went out with some friends and openly stated that i wouldn't let the rejection get to me and over the course of 8 hrs, 2 restaurants, 4 dance clubs and 2 bars, I got shot down 27 times......that was the beginning of the end for me. The final straw was when i met someone online, chatted for 3 months, booked a flight hotel and car to go down to see her in fla and she bailed on me the night before.....she had forgotten that she'd given me her address (I'd sent flowers to her on valentine's day)....I went to her place to ask her why the hell she stopped responding....when she answered the door, actually her father did lol, and she came to it, she was 22 but about 275 lbs....she had sent me fake photos of herself in addition to the ones she posted in her ad......what she'd done is scammed them off someone else's ad.....

Anyhow, that was it, I packed it in and honestly, never been happier or more content in my life.......and a thing that reinforces the decision in my mind is the fact that I see shit that guys go through with their wives and gfs.....one guy comes in every morning and tells us about how much shit she gave him the night before, and another wanted to buy my bike but "his wife wouldn't let him" even though a) he could afford it b) he was the one earning the money and c) she had decided to quit her job and go back to school (to the tune of about $13,000.00)......btw, not discussing it with him before quitting i might add....

 

[-b]

tboy...women have the same issues.....Most women are not that into
what the guy looks but more the personality.....

When I was younger, I was a nice looking woman...I had trouble meeting
guys....I was not self absorb or a snob....Guys would not talk to me....They would
look but would not introduce themselves....So I just started to express myself more
and would say hello......

Now with the age of the internet or evening texting...people are becoming
less social.....One of my fears is, I enjoy my alone time now and I will totally
isolate myself.....so I need to be careful.....

We all have our issues....

 

[Analme]

Tboy it's true it is tough for some to meet ladies but then you have some guys that just walk in and the ladies are coming up to them, hugging them, flirting with them. It's as if they can have their pick of women. I was at a wedding several months ago and sitting at a table with another couple. I hit it off with the dude and we were at the bar grabbing drinks. The dude was being hit on by two different ladies while his wife was sitting back at our table. One of the ladies walked by and slipped him her number and walked away. He smiled at me and said he loves parties. I was as if I was the invisible man as this was all taking place LOL.

 

[tboy]

tboy...women have the same issues.....Most women are not that into
what the guy looks but more the personality.........

SOrry bliss, i'm playing the bs card on this one....now women may think that's the way they are, they may even have themselves convinced that that's the way they think but scientific studies have proven time and time again that that statement just isn't true. For example: during the week leading up to her period, women will tend to be more attracted to a larger, macho type man due to mother nature making her want to have children who would survive in the wild....if i had the time and inclination i could look up the studies and link them here but i've got things to do.

The thing is, women cannot in any way shape or form know what kind of a guy he is in 2.2 seconds. no way no how yet it is also proven that women make that decision immediately based on his looks...way before he even opens his mouth.

Now this isn't to say that all women are only attracted to say, GQ models, but their decision is based on appearance.....then if he passes that test they'll listen to his line, his "game" and then decide whether he is worth their time.....

THe kicker is, it's not only really attractive women who act this way, it's the uggos too. I can't tell you how many times i've come across women who are so homely they should be accepting ANY guy, giving off the same snotty "not good enough for me" attitude as the hotties.....Then you have reams and reams of data by women support groups about how no woman should "settle" for anything less than their knight in shining armor......yet when men have that same attitude, we're condoned for being too picky.....

Analme: I hear you bro....it's funny, throughout most of my life my friends have been mostly "lady killers" insofar that they are really popular with the ladies....and to a one, they are all really asshats inside. Like your guy at the wedding, i bet you dollars to donuts he'd keep the number and call her up.....

Here's a story for you: a buddy of mine "landed" this hottie that I was also hitting on. (via an online dating site). After they were dating for a couple of years, a whole bunch of us went out to a dance club. He was off flirting, joking and being Mr Popular and she was sitting there stewing about "how can he do that"....I finally had enough (i'd been hearing this for the entire 2 yrs) and said "for fuck's sake, he was that way when you met him, he was that way when you fucked him for the first time, why did you expect him to be any different? hell, THAT"S what attracted you to him in the first place"!!!!! And therein lies the rub.....these women flock to these types of guys yet when they finally find out what just an ass they are, they're surprised......

Further to that, the thing about all these guys? They are great at landing the women, but they don't know the first thing about keeping them.....to a one, they all got great women, but eventually the icing falls off the cake and they find nothing underneath....that's the old steak/sizzle thing....This is why, throughout my adult life when I did finally hookup with someone, they always had girlfriends who would constantly bitch and moan about how they couldn't find a good guy. To each I said to them: stop going after the guys with the patter, stop going after the guys that say all the right things, stop going after guys who you normally go for. The next time you're out, look for the average looking guy, probably standing by himself, who isn't dressed just right, doesn't say all the right things etc because REAL people say the wrong thing, don't come off as all that and a bag of chips, REAL guys aren't perfect.....but you know what? They're REAL...they have depth, they'll probably be loyal and move heaven and earth to keep you because just the fact that you came up to THEM probably made their year......

 

[Jerkthis]

The next time you're out, look for the average looking guy, probably standing by himself, who isn't dressed just right, doesn't say all the right things etc because REAL people say the wrong thing, don't come off as all that and a bag of chips, REAL guys aren't perfect.....but you know what? They're REAL...they have depth, they'll probably be loyal and move heaven and earth to keep you because just the fact that you came up to THEM probably made their year......

So let me get this straight, you are saying Choke and BlankDave would make the perfect mates.

Don't take it the wrong way Choke and Dave, I am in the same category.

 

[tboy]

So let me get this straight, you are saying Choke and BlankDave would make the perfect mates.

Don't take it the wrong way Choke and Dave, I am in the same category.

I'm not saying that, because no one is perfect but they'd certainly be better in the long run than a lady killer type......just think of it, a hottie finds herself some guy like choke, gives him pointers on how to dress, how to act in public and she'd have it all......and we do know how women like to "change" their guy lol.....

Dont' take offence but you know how women are, when you start dating you become infinitely more attractive to other women...that's not only because if you're good enough for your gf, you're good enough for them, but women tend to make guys their with more attractive. I know many of my exes would buy me shirts etc that i would never have thought to buy myself and more often than not, other women would comment on them.....

One in particular, whenever we were going out, i'd get dressed and be waiting for her and she'd come out looking great and i'd go back in to change into something more appropriate lol......heheheheh

 

[Analme]

The dressing part is so true. My ex would buy all my clothes. As a matter of fact I was banned from buying anything myself including a pair of socks. Admittedly my wardrobe has gone to shits now LOL.

 

[-b]

tboy....they did a study on Hormones male give off.....
Anyway depends on the study and who does the research etc.......
If that was the case then only certain men would have females
and all the rest would be as they say "Shit out of Luck"

Also give us women some smarts please......I think we have evolved from the
cave man age......medieval times etc.....Also all this stuff about the "Game"
I feel there is too many books written by people who just want to make a buck...
on relationships on how to catch a guy or women...All I know when I talk to people
how they met their BF or wife or husband....they either knew them...they were ready
to meet somebody......and all of a sudden moment.....etc.....

Not I was on my period and this big man with hormones came in...I knew I wanted his
baby right there and then.....because of my survival instinct kick in and I had to have
children that will survive....I am sure every ex wife would sue their ex for using their hormones
to brain wash them.....:dontknow: into marrying them......

We all make choices as for clothes....too....My ex enjoy when I picked out his clothing...
with him...I have nice taste in men clothing....eg women liked his looks...:rofl1:

We are all humane....we all have issues good and bad....we will never learn to deal
with each other easily because each of us have our own personalities and you can
not put one gender in a pot......

I am in pain if you do not understand what I wrote I will be selling a book on relationships...
called " Why having Babies Rule Us Women...." and " Men give up if you are Skinny....etc."

and saw thi

 

[tboy]

so by your miscellaneous ramblings bliss i gather you're saying that women do NOT judge a man by how he looks?

So what you're saying is that women have esp or some other form of telepathy whereby they know what a guy is like by "sensing" his personality when he approaches them?

As for your "only certain men would have women" comment....you hit the nail on the head...only certain men DO have women.....there are hundreds of thousands of men out there who don't have women, and some who never have had a woman....take a look at this board...how many posting members are there? I'd peg a number around 50 in this forum (probably a lot less) and we have chokemychicken, blankdave who seem to have never had a gf....that's about 4% in this forum alone....now add in the number who don't even bother anymore and I'd say that number is closer to 20 or 30 percent.....

 

[Madman]

Many on this board don't bother because in reality it's easier to pay for a guaranteed good time than gamble on dinner and a movie only to go home alone and have to rub one off.

 

[tboy]

Many on this board don't bother because in reality it's easier to pay for a guaranteed good time than gamble on dinner and a movie only to go home alone and have to rub one off.

well, how about we start a poll? lol....seriously, for me, it is the constant (and i do mean constant) rejection that got old really fast.....for me, a great analogy is:

i'm a farm dog relaxing on the front lawn....every time a car goes by i go tearing off down the road after it...I end up with cuts on my paws and a mouthful of dust....it took me a while but i learned: wtf am I doing? if the cars want to be caught they'll come to ME

(btw, doesn't that sound like the mindset of most women? hey, all i have to do is show up and wait for mr right to come to ME)