For the record - I'm not picking on Bolt.
I am pointing out that this is just another example of you having your head up your ass where the hobby and its participants are concerned. An individual who secretly spends the family income on prostitutes, and in fact, secretly welcomes those prostitutes into the family dwelling, and the marital bed, for sexual relations is no 'gentleman'. He is, regardless of reason or rationale, a cheat, a liar, and an entirely unfaithful husband in every way.
It doesn't matter how friendly, non-confrontational, or congenial an individual may be via an anonymous online persona - the facts of the individual's character are incontrovertible, based on their actions. Although a sad truth, for the most part, married hobbyists cannot and should not consider themselves 'gentleman', and to qualify them as such is to show a complete lack of understanding of the 'big picture'.